The Devil You Know: Letting go of Toxic Behaviour

“You can’t reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday’s junk.”

Louise Smith

'You have come to a crossroads, and you can't take it anymore. The uneasiness, the sleepless nights, the ruminating, the feeling that you're not doing it right, saying it right, or good enough. You tell yourself, if I just stop 'thinking' about it, it will disappear. So you sweep it under the rug. Avoid it at all costs and search for comfort in the uncomfortable; forcing you to stay at that same shitty job, hang out with the same shitty friends, or stay in that same shitty marriage.'

It's the devil you know.

Your dysfunctional function.

Put your hand up if you've ever 'been there' before 

(or something close to it)

Yep. Me too.

But I have some great news.

Are you ready for it?

Your perceived setbacks are opportunities for growth.

And believe me, I get it. It's NOT for the faint of heart.

With so much noise in every orifice of our existence, it's easy to pull out that phone and doomscroll your life away. But if you want to truly move forward, you must let go of the toxicity that is constantly ruining your day and replace it with courage.

The first step in letting go of toxic behavior is having the strength to take a risk on yourself.

You need to be brave, and you need to be your biggest cheerleader. So, move aside all the 'shoulds' expectations and supposed 'to's' and take a step toward what you need to do, rather than what your mind wants you to do (remember it wants safe and easy).

Next, you need to find a way to gently heal your wounds from the past. Enroll in a free online course on how to connect with your intuition. Delve into the many faces of spirituality. Hire a therapist or search out alternative medicines. Either way, all healing needs to be done with an open-mind. Take what you need and leave the rest.

The trick is to shake things up, concoct new thoughts, and try new things.

And most importantly: Be gentle with the process.

Removing something toxic in your life is like cleaning a festering wound in its entirety – it's painful and arduous and it needs love.

Still skeptical?

Here are some of your risks:

Less noise

More rest

Healthier gut

Healthier body

Happy endings

Healthier boundaries

Figure out the difference between wants and needs

Communicate better

Have the confidence to do more cool shit!

And remember! 

It will almost always leave a scar. 

Embrace it. 

A good scar always has a great story behind it -it's a reminder of where you came from.

So, what are you waiting for?

What soul-sucking toxic behavior are you ready to tackle today?